How Maria Used the System to Cut Me Out of My Daughter’s Life
A harrowing account of one father’s struggle against a manipulative ex-partner, a biased legal system, and the emotional toll of being unjustly shut out of his daughter’s life.
Maria didn’t just refuse to let me back into my own home after having locked me out for 6 months. She demanded that I pay for the mortgage and HOA fees indefinitely. In December 2023, she lied to Judge Pittman, claiming I had agreed to these terms. Maria said she had no intention of moving out. Judge Pittman sided with her, leaving me responsible for three homes: a room in a Seattle apartment where I work, a rental in Coeur d’Alene to see my daughter, and the mortgage and HOA for the condo Maria lived in. The total cost? A staggering $2,600 per month, just for housing.
This situation was beyond absurd—it was extreme. Maria knew this arrangement would be unsustainable for me. She orchestrated it to force me to give up, knowing it would help her cut me out of our daughter’s life. She even mocked me, fully aware the court would back her no matter what, since Judge Pittman is totally corrupt. At the time she mocked me:
“Oh boo hoo, now I have to pay for three whole places!”
My Mental Breakdown: Maria Twists the Knife, March 2024
By early January 2024, the weight of Maria’s actions pushed me to a breaking point. Her relentless manipulation included:
- Falsely accusing me of child abuse in February 2023;
- Filing a fraudulent protection order, getting me thrown out of my own home and changing the locks in March 2023;
- Tricking me into moving to Boston in March 2023;
- Refusing to let me see our daughter unless I signed a one-month stopgap agreement in Septemmber 2023;
- Lying to Judge Pittman, claiming the temporary agreement should be permanent, in December 2023;
- Convincing the judge I should pay her mortgage and HOA indefinitely, despite being barred from the house, January 2024;
- Forcing me into an oppressive visitation schedule that required expensive, exhausting red-eye trips twice a week; January 2024.
The toll was unbearable. I stopped visiting Coeur d’Alene and checked myself into a psychiatric hospital in early January 2024. I had never needed such help before, but I couldn’t comprehend how I—clearly the more capable and caring parent—was being systematically shut out of my daughter’s life by a narcissistic, bitter, manipulative woman. It felt like the court’s goal was to destroy good fathers and their relationships with their children. They were strongly incentivizing Maria’s nasty psychopathic behavior.
Maria Twists the Knife Further: Her Malicious Behavior Escalates
While I was hospitalized in March 2024, Maria filed an ex parte motion to gain sole custody of our daughter, stripping me of all visitation rights. The judge granted her request, and I received the order while still in treatment.
I was devastated. I’ve always fought to be in my daughter’s life, but Maria’s actions—her lies, manipulation, and cruelty—had pushed me to a mental breakdown. And then, she used that breakdown against me.
It was at this moment I realized I had married a true psychopath. Maria’s actions showed no empathy, no humanity—just pure hatred. She hates herself, and she takes it out on everyone around her. When I asked for visitation after this, she refused without hesitation.
Summary
This is the story of how Maria’s malice, combined with a flawed legal system, can destroy a father’s relationship with his child. It’s a cautionary tale of manipulation, injustice, and the high cost of fighting for what’s right. To make matters worse, this is behavior Maria has engaged in for over 20 years, and nobody is willing to put a stop to her, even though they’re fully aware she’s been destroying lives for so long.